tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348251172219846315.post5470769056284767505..comments2010-09-17T08:32:03.617+10:00Comments on The Ability in Disability: I did a forward roll to prove I could do one. And I did!Shinxyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14678735538772816049noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348251172219846315.post-67753756238618642602010-09-06T15:43:59.131+10:002010-09-06T15:43:59.131+10:00Believe it or not, sometimes being black in Americ...Believe it or not, sometimes being black in America means that you're always struggling to prove yourself in the eyes of others as well. I've been asked similar questions about my education level, my love of books and even my adoration of classical music. I know it's different, but I thought I'd share.<br /><br />By the way, I did a somersault in the pool the other day, something I use to do all the time . . . and it hurt! I got water deep in my ears and straight up my nose. I was struggling to breathe and I felt quite dizzy and nauseous. Ahhh aging's grand, isn't it?etoilee8https://www.blogger.com/profile/07267205544780686085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348251172219846315.post-64455393501423360332010-08-20T01:04:54.108+10:002010-08-20T01:04:54.108+10:00LOL, I couldn't do those rolls in the 3rd grad...LOL, I couldn't do those rolls in the 3rd grade! More of a pizza roller here. I often think about going back to get credentials...not sure what holds me back. It has never been that important to me, until I say something and am held as worthless without that degree. Roll On!Diane J Standifordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11862850657925658079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348251172219846315.post-71427640372208145022010-08-18T20:57:46.212+10:002010-08-18T20:57:46.212+10:00I really liked this post. I think I should do some...I really liked this post. I think I should do some metaphorical forward rolls. You've inspired me!Harleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09912471979864385633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348251172219846315.post-44804474456030538572010-08-01T08:11:49.703+10:002010-08-01T08:11:49.703+10:00PS - Ellen, I encourage you to have a read of my b...PS - Ellen, I encourage you to have a read of my blog - http://carlyfindlay.blogspot.com if you haven't already. You will see stories of the ignorance and rudeness of the way people have reacted to my appearance, and hopefully come to understand why I wrote this particular blog entry.<br /><br />In my opinion, it would be appropriate to question how you may approach someone who's going through troubled times - like worrying about what to say to someone whose relative died, for example. But I don't think there should ever be a question about the way you should treat someone because of their appearance. Just treat everyone how you'd want to be treated, and hopefully that is nicely, respectfully and on an equal plane.Carly Findlayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368145710452826385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348251172219846315.post-42103304217727506082010-07-31T21:14:39.953+10:002010-07-31T21:14:39.953+10:00Hi Ellen
I think you could start by saying hello, ...Hi Ellen<br />I think you could start by saying hello, being friendly and treating me in a way you would treat any other person you would encounter. Not patronising. Not in a judgmental way. And without fear. <br />Of course physical appearance is the first thing we notice. But it is the inside person that counts. <br />CarlyCarly Findlayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368145710452826385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348251172219846315.post-4267382017160962882010-07-31T20:25:10.853+10:002010-07-31T20:25:10.853+10:00I can not do a forward roll, and jusdging by the i...I can not do a forward roll, and jusdging by the inevitable pain, I don't think I want to.<br /><br />I have a disability, that is not always clearly obvious when people look at me, but it affects my ability to function, and it certainly impacts how people perceive me and relate to me. <br /><br />I would be one of the people who reacts to you in the way that upsets you so much. So if we ever do encounter each other. I apologise in advance. As a culture, as a person, I just do not know the right way to approach you, and how not to offend you, and the effort to not offend you, would inevitably cause offense. <br /><br />I have a stunningly beautiful friend who I shall refer to as Bella. She has a sever cleft palate and her face is more of a Picaso than a DaVinci, and because I didn't know how to approach her, because many people with a "percieved disability" also have a preconcieved notion about how people will treat them and don't give you much of a chance. As fate would have it, I did get to have a lengthy conversation with her one night, and we are both the richer for it, and our continued friendship. <br /><br />Without causing offence, I honestly, would like to know... HOW would I approach you? Unfortunatly, physical appearance is the first thing you notice about someone, and something you can't help but notice, I guess that's why the cosmetic and fashion industries are such multimillion dollar industries. However, I would not like to think that your offence at my initial reaction to your appearance and my reaction itself would mean that I would not encounter you beyond our initial reactions... I don't know that I have expressed myself clearly, but I hope you can understand my question...femonazi69https://www.blogger.com/profile/06941768485281407308noreply@blogger.com